When my Max refuses to say that he’s sorry I ask him leading questions like “you know that when you throw a tantrum like that, it makes mommy sad and angry, right?” and “you know how when I’ve done something to make you sad and angry I always say I’m sorry, right?” “Do you know what you need to say when you’ve hurt someone you love and who loves you VERY VERY much?” and “It’s one little word that soothes hurt feelings, sweetie. I understand if you’re too angry to say it right now, but you do need to say it before we can be okay again.” and “Do you know what happens when you say that you’re sorry? No? When you say you’re sorry, mommy feels better and she gives you a hug and the two of you talk about what happened and both of us stop feeling sad and mad at each other.” and “Max, if I yelled at you when you didn’t do anything wrong and then didn’t say I was sorry, how would you feel? You’d feel hurt and sad and mad with me because I wasn’t fair to you, right? You know I tried to buy you shoes but they didn’t have your size. It was not nice of you to yell at me, and you hurt my feelings very very very much.” and “Saying sorry is like kissing a boo-boo. It makes the hurt feelings better.”

Sometimes it works.. Other times it most definitely does not. :p Ahh… Preschoolers.

It IS cute, though, when I get grouchy at Max for jumping on the couch after I told him fourteen times not to, and he says “MAHMIE! It’s NOT NICE to yell. You hurt Max’s feelings! Say you’re sowwy”. :p

Porgie is obsessed with shoes too. Whenever we go to a shoe store, she cries and cries and cries for new shoes. Izzy, on the other hand, will only wear rain boots.

Sorry you had a moment like that.

i have soooo been there.