The hubby’s birthday

My husband is one of those types that hates his own birthday..not because it is an age thing..actually this has occurred since he was very young. My mother in law was just telling me how he would hide under the table and cry as a child when they sang happy birthday. My hubby likes to run 20 miles on his birthday and just hang out and not make a big deal out if it. Although we do exchange cards and a small gift. Despite my hubby hating his birthday, we had a wonderful day. Scott came home from running and we ate lunch while Max was napping. Then he took and nap and Max and I watched a movie, since it was raining.

Then we all hung out and just enjoyed each others company. I made some muffins, Max played and Scott watched a movie. I almost felt like it was fall and football was on because it just felt so relaxing. Sunday football is a real nice and relaxing day in our house.

I am grateful for my hubby. Yesterday we actually had a TALK about him not participating again. I am not sure what happens with him but sometimes he just checks out and needs to be alone. The problem is that does not work when you have a family. We all need alone time but we also need to interact. I felt real clear and precise about what I needed. I think I have said this before but my hubby goes out for work about 4 times a week at night and then probably stays and bullshits for a few hours. I a  convinced that since he works from home, this is his time to interact with people and be social. I explained last night that I never bitch about those nights but in exchange I need him to be present with both Max and I. I need some affection and love. I need to feel like all week he looks forward to the 1 to 2 hours family time we have once a weekend and the hour a day he plays with Max before and after dinner.I/We need to feel his love. I know he loves us but I need to really feel it. I don’t think that is asking too much and neither did he. 

I felt for the first time in our relationship that I was so clear. There was no drama or no games for attention or no cold shoulder-even though I wanted to not talk to him for a week because I was feeling hurt but I did none of that..I just spoke my truth and it felt great. I guess I am lucky that we have a great relationship when I speak up but those times that I don’t-well I am miserable. Thank goodness he listens and we always find a place that feels good for both of us.

What is your relationship like?

PS. Max feel asleep at 7:45 pm which means that I have a night to relax all to myself and watch a good movie and fold some laundry while drinking some tea. AAAHHHHHH the good life.