We just can’t do it. It is not in us to let Max cry. I have been sick worrying about the whole crying it out. I swear I was more worried about doing it than having another baby and nobody sleeping. I was fortunate to talk to a friend, who we met on a vacation in Naples, Florida and she and I are so similar with health and parenting. She and I spoke for a while about Max and his sleeping. She too has a little boy about 26 months and a newborn about 1 month old…so it will be the same for me when the new babu is born. Anyway, she and I talked about how Max will learn eventually.
I know I sounded so sure of myself last week but I was not and I was feeling desperate. Scott and I discussed a plan for when max wakes in the night and breaking him of that habit. But if it does happen and continues, well we will just have to deal with it. I feel good sticking to my gut about our family. I never thought I would be a Mom who has a family bed but it works for us and it works for Max. Of course, I need some more room and my kid hogs the bed but things could be worse. I am convinced that he will eventually sleep and eventually leave our bed but for now- we are staying true to our feelings and that is the best parenting I know of.
Kellan says:
He will - learn eventually and you just have to do what works for you, right now. It will all work out!!
Thanks for coming by and for the sweet comments, Rachel - I always look forward to seeing you and visiting you and MAX!
Take care - Kellan
May 13th, 2008 at 10:01 pm
Melanie says:
He will eventually learn. No one goes off to college wanting their mommy to come and sleep with them. Right?
May 13th, 2008 at 11:10 pm
Mrs. F says:
Yay for doing what you feel is right!
May 13th, 2008 at 11:13 pm
korin says:
I love that you are so honest with your processing! have you thought about putting a twin bed next to your bed? gets a lotmore bedspace, and can help transition him away from you. Or, you can move over there in the middle of the night!
It will take time, but someday he will sleep like crazy!
May 13th, 2008 at 11:47 pm
Lil says:
What’s working for me is having a mattress in my son’s room. When he wakes up I move to his bed and stay with him until he falls back into sleep and then I move back to my bed.
Some nights he wakes up more than others, but it’s getting him used to the sounds and smells of his room, and to thinking that it is his room and this is where he sleeps.
Otherwise he wakes up wondering why the heck he isn’t in HIS nest (our bed)
May 14th, 2008 at 2:11 pm
Catizhere says:
I don’t think Will has EVER slept through the night. As soon as he starts to cry, I go get him & bring him back to bed with us. He sleeps peacefully the rest of the night. Lately, Maggie, the almost-5 year old, has been waking up & asking to sleep with us too. 4 people in a queen size bed=happy,loved kids & happy, well-loved, sleep-deprived parents.
May 14th, 2008 at 3:56 pm
chelle says:
We can’t do it either. Always important to go with your gut.
May 16th, 2008 at 6:43 am
misguided mommy says:
you know, i don’t know any 30 year olds who still sleep with their mamas.
you know whats right baby, only you and the hubs, non one else!
May 16th, 2008 at 11:22 pm